Yes, yes, I know that my birthday was around 3 weeks ago, but it has been a very busy period. As you have probably seen if you follow me on Instagram, I moved to London to do my postgraduate. It has been my dream for a couple of years to move to the big city and live here, so I am very fortunate to have this chance. It has been a very overwhelming period as I was immediately sucked into the busy London lifestyle. However, I was very lucky to meet a lot of absolutely amazing people right away. I am slowly starting to feel at home in London and I love it.
As you probably know my birthday was on the 21st of September. I was really subtle with sharing it online (posted around 34890282903 stories, posts, statuses, pictures from it…oops). it was my 22nd birthday and after having one of the most challenging years in my life so far, I decided that it would be fun to create a blogpost, where I share a little about my experiences so far. So here it goes: 22 things I learned before turning 22.
Yes, I know it’s a super cliché thing to say, but we often neglect who we are in order to appeal to people. Faking it will last for a while, but sooner or later your real personality will come to shine. Nowadays, I would rather be judged about being my crazy, hyperactive and weird self than be somebody else just to please people.
2.It is better to be single than in an unhappy relationship!
It is hard to put an end to a long relationship. If you are like me, you will continue making excuses and search for reasons to hold on to the relationship. And yes, sometimes it does work out. There are instances where patience and effort will make your relationship grow and turn into a fairytale. However, sometimes you can put all the effort in the world into keeping a person, into changing yourself to make your partner happy, into working to make the relationship stronger and it will not be enough. If this moment comes you should reevaluate your relationship. Be rational, instead of focusing on your feelings. Think about what you want, what you are ready to give, but also what you deserve to receive. And if the person you are with does not make you happy, then you should change something. Don’t stay in a relationship that is toxic for you just because you are afraid to be alone. Don’t waste your time because you might miss somebody who really is meant for you.
3.Make the best out of every situation.
It is easy to complain and find the negatives in a certain situation, but it takes much more strength to take unfortunate circumstances and turn them into something beneficial. Yes, there are a few instances where you cannot be positive, but in most of the cases you can turn a bad situation into a lesson. Rather than thinking about how it is making your life hard, focus on how you can change it or learn from it.
4.Naps are important!
You thought that this blogpost is going to be very deep and emotional? Nope. But on the serious side, power naps can turn your day around. So don’t underestimate a good nap. To be honest, I might take one after I finish this blogpost…
5.Surround yourself with good people!
Don’t be one of those obnoxious and superficial people that judge others on their appearance. Give people a chance to surprise you. Ask questions. Be interested in others. You will realize how many great people there are.
Of course, this excludes the occasional banter between friends.
7.Do it with passion or not at all:)
Yes, I am aware that this is a very popular Tumblr quote. But it is one of the phrases I have to agree with. Whenever I have started working on something by putting my heart into it, it has turned out better.
8.Make sure to always have a snack in your kitchen.
You don’t know how many times I have wanted to snack on something in the middle of the night, but I rarely have something delicious in my fridge (Yes, mom, I am trying to be healthy). However, you should treat yourself from time to time, so there is nothing bad in having a chocolate bar hidden somewhere in your cupboard. For emergencies.
9.Don’t forget to drink water, kids.
10.Always have a charged power bank.
Yes, Apple, it is time that you do something about those batteries because they really need to be improved.
11.There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
12.Don’t play sad music when you are already feeling down…
This is something I still do and it doesn’t help me at all. It just makes me overthink whatever is stressing me out and this consequently makes me feel worse. So next time you are sad, blast some really cringy, but fun music and dance around the room.
13.Nothing is more important than your family, friends and yours and their health!!!
14.Go offline from time to time…
I had a period when I was constantly on my phone, whenever I was out and I realized that I could not pay attention to both the online sphere and the world that is surrounding me. This made me miss out on many great moments and interactions. Surprisingly, ever since I started being more active on Instagram I have started appreciating my time offline more. Nowadays, I try to leave my phone more often and focus on the atmosphere that surrounds me…not to play the saint, I still check my phone from time to time…I am not thaaaat perfect.
15.Don’t bottle up your thoughts and feelings!
It is just a ticking time bomb waiting to explode. It’s funny, because I am giving you this advice now, but this is one of the qualities I lack. I have a hard time expressing my feelings when a situation is tough. I don’t like confrontations and oftentimes I feel weak if I am straightforward and honest. However, it would be so much easier if people were more honest and were not afraid to speak their mind. This is definitely something I still have to learn and work on.
16.Be Confident and Yet Humble.
Be confident in your abilities, but don’t be arrogant.
17.Don’t compare yourself to others.
A little competition is healthy, but some people put way too much effort into focusing on other people’s lives rather than understanding how they can improve their own. As cliché as it might sound, you will never know everything that is going in another person’s life. So rather than feeling down because of other people’s success, use it as a motivation that you too can do it.
18.Always find time to spoil your soul.
Whether this would be to read a new book, attend a musical, listen to a podcast on a random topic or go to a museum, you should always find time for activities that can give you a break from real life.
After all we have one life that we know of and it would be a shame if we wasted it being bitter and sad. Be busy, go out, make new friends, be crazy, create wonderful and unforgettable memories.
21.Follow your Goals!
I remember back in high school one of my favorite teachers explained how important it is to set a goal at the beginning of the year and follow it, work towards it and make sure to achieve it by the end of the year. It was a very untypical approach and we didn’t understand how important it actually was until the moment of achieving this goal came. Not everybody was able to succeed in what they had intended, but because of their hard work and dedication we were all closer to our goals and their fulfillment. This approach made me realize how important it is to always have a purpose in life and work towards it in order to be happy.
22.Allow Yourself to be Proud of What You Have Achieved…